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Fix or Kill Dreaded Rituals

If people dread your team ritual, fix the format or kill the meeting. Don't force attendance to something that isn't working.

Team Dynamics·Updated 4 months ago·Created Oct 21, 2025

Fix or Kill Dreaded Rituals

The insight: If people dread your team ritual, that's a signal something structural is wrong. Fix the format or kill the meeting. Don't force attendance to something that isn't working.

Why this matters: Dreaded meetings are worse than no meetings. They drain energy, create resentment, and condition people to tune out.

How to diagnose:

  • Ask: "If we canceled this meeting forever, what would we lose?"
  • Watch body language—are people engaged or checked out?
  • Notice patterns—are the same people always silent?

Options when a meeting isn't working:

  1. Change the format (add games, change facilitator, try async first)
  2. Change the frequency (maybe monthly instead of weekly)
  3. Change the participants (maybe too many/few people)
  4. Kill it entirely and see what happens

The courage required: Admitting something isn't working and changing it, even if it was your idea.

meetings · rituals · engagement · courage

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