Ask Where You're Wrong

The insight: "What do you think?" is the worst way to ask for feedback. "Where am I wrong?" is much better.

Why this works:

• •It's specific—people know what you're asking for
• •It shows vulnerability—you're confident enough to handle criticism
• •It gives permission—people can be direct without worrying about your ego
• •It usually gets you better information than any other question

Compare these:

• •❌ "What do you think about this approach?"
• •❌ "Any feedback on this design?"
• •✅ "Where am I wrong about this?"
• •✅ "What's going to break if we do this?"
• •✅ "I feel confident about this plan, but help me not look like an idiot—what am I missing?"

The reframe: Don't ask for general thoughts. Ask for specific criticism. Make it easy for people to tell you the truth.